For better or for worse (to borrow a phrase), it’s your show. You don’t have to worry about scaring a spouse with your haphazard fashion sense.Right now, I’m sitting at my kitchen table wearing a vintage Hawaiian skirt and a black hooded sweat shirt. You don’t have to apologize for snoring like a leaf blower.The author quotes a number of online dating movers and shakers in his piece, including Mark Brooks of the dating industry news site, Online Personals Watch, a great spot to learn what’s hot and what’s not in the world of digital romance. Amy Webb, author of the new Data, a Love Story: How I Gamed Dating to Meet My Match, has also recently joined the dating advice fray with a story of “reverse-engineering” JDate in order to find her perfect match (click here to read a couple of excerpts on Huffington Post).Also tapped, two authors who’ve recently published their own excellent essays (and books) on the topic of love in the time of algorithms. Will reading all of these essays help you connect with the person of your dreams?There was also no one to blame for the crumb-covered rug or the leaning tower of cereal bowls in the sink. And it stayed just me until I fell in love with a handsome writer five years my junior (scandalous! In other words, I’ve become much more comfortable with my single self. I talk about some of the reasons in this Single Shot column celebrating independence.Single Shot: O say, can you see how great living alone can be?10 things dating sites won’t tell you: the risks and rewards of looking for love online, by Quentin Fottrell, delves into the rising costs of online dating; the trends (boomers and gay men are growing markets, apparently); the likelihood your potential matches are lying about something (more than 50%); the likelihood your potential matches are married (not so much, adulterers have their own “dating” sites now – hurray!); the ease with which photos can be doctored and tons more.
By appealing to our inherently fickle nature, online dating transforms people into commodities and much like any other inanimate object you can order via the web – computers, cell phones, cappuccino makers – upgrading is a snap.As much fun as it can be to live with a significant other — shared meals, shared laughs, shared love — there’s something pretty spectacular about living on your own. You can dance around your living room to bad ’70s rock at 6 in the morning.You can turn your bathroom into a shrine to Carlos Silva.We’re supposed to love our bodies, embrace our “battle scars.” But I’ve been at war the last three years and I freely admit to having mixed feelings about the woman staring back at me in the mirror.A few years ago, a psychologist at Columbia University by the name of Sheena Iyengar conducted a study on the “tyranny of choice” we face each day by conducting experiments that tempted people with varying amounts of chocolate and fancy jams.